Dildos are one of the most recognizable products in the sex toy niche, with their prominent shape and obvious application. But when you take it to another level and go hands-free with a dildo, would you know how to ride one?


Rather than taking a ‘to heck with it’ kind of approach, read up on our guide to effectively use a dildo for riding to high heavens. In this article, we’ll describe the different kinds of dildos available in the market, how you can ride each one, and safety tips to prevent unwanted injuries and accidents.

What is a Dildo?

Before we start, it’s worth noting to see how amazing the sex toy industry has evolved. There are many products that blur the line between applications- you can now have a sex toy that does several or multiple things at once. The same can be said for the humble dildo, which once was used mainly for manual stimulation via penetration.


The dildos you see now are more than just for that- they can thrust, come in the form of your deepest and darkest fantasy, and be stationary in that they can be ridden. If you have a flat and solid surface anywhere in the bedroom, then you can bet that you can ride a dildo.


With this in mind, a dildo can be defined as a sex toy that penetrates and stimulates the vagina or anus. In freestyle play, a dildo can be used to rub against the clit, touch the g-spot or nipple, or be used simultaneously with a human partner. Of course, riding a dildo seems to be a popular activity on porn sites and adult streaming platforms, and they make it look easy that the viewer will want to try it.

How to Ride a Dildo Step-by-Step

Now we’re getting to the heart of the topic- how to ride a dildo for maximum pleasure. Though intuitive, it may take a few moments to get comfortable enough (and maybe several sessions) that you get the most out of your sex toy.

Step 1. Prepare for Penetration

First-time users often make the rookie mistake of putting in their dildos when their erogenous zones are high and dry. Yes, you may be excited but you should also allow yourself to build up the experience using your fingers and some lube.


Think of the pre-dildo experience as foreplay, where you get horny enough to get yourself wet. This makes penetration all the better in terms of sensation.

Step 2. Ease Into the Dildo

To ride a dildo, you must know how to operate the toy manually. Allow the device to touch your external erogenous zones, e.g., nipple or clit to get a feel of the size and hardness. When sufficiently comfortable, ease into the dildo a few inches, then a few more at a time. At this point, you can slow down and experience the sensation the toy provides.

Step 3. Find the Sweet Spot

Proper depth of penetration will vary from one individual to another. So, you should find yours while in the experimentation phase. Try to feel the dildo while it’s in a shallow position, then put a little more until you feel the tingles that signal a climax. Do another test to confirm the sweet spot and remember the depth at which it came.


Remember that you will use your legs and hips to get to the sweet spot, so do some exercises that will strengthen those muscles. Lay the dildo on a flat and stable surface, e.g., the floor or posted on a wall, and slowly lower yourself or to the side until you’ve accomplished penetration.


It’s possible that you won’t hit the sweet spot right away. If this is the case, then we recommend a manual approach with the dildo- use it to penetrate and achieve an orgasm. The right moment will spark like a light bulb and give you the go signal to start riding.

Step 4. Ride Like a Pro

A few sessions may be all it takes for you to ride a dildo properly. Don’t forget your pre-dildo ritual and have plenty of lube on hand. The best part about riding a dildo is the myriad ways to position the sex toy, and more often than not they will provide a different orgasmic experience.

Step 5. (Optional) Use Other Sex Toys

Who says you can’t play with other adult toys when riding a dildo? You can even play with a partner for even more fun. Examples of dildo riding with a sex toy include an egg vibrator, nipple clamps, handcuffs, and other products along those lines. Different scenarios call for different sex toys, so don’t hesitate to shop at our website for the things you need.

5 Popular Dildo Types and How to Use Them

Dildos come in all shapes and sizes, not to mention features and functions. To help you in your search for greater sexuality and satisfaction, we’ve rounded up the top five dildo types and how you can use them.

Big Dildos

If you’ve ever seen a monstrous-sized dildo, then it belongs to this category. These sex toys usually have a prominent girth and length that seems unrealistic, reaching up to 8 or 9 inches. Some big dildos will also have a realistic shape or design that copies a real penis.


Big dildos can seem overwhelming at first glance, but you should keep in mind that you’re not required to put it all in. That will be entirely up to you. However, this sex toy can definitely help if you want to play with a particular type of fantasy.

Strapless Dildo

A strapless dildo is an evolved form of a dildo you can affix to your body and use. They can be used in solo and partner sex, regardless of gender or preference as either can function as the giver.

Thrusting Dildo

Thrusting dildos are those that have a up-and-down mechanism when you activate them. It’s a convenient feature in that you don’t have to use your hands for manual stimulation. Using a thrusting dildo is more complicated than say, a vanilla vibrating dildo since there’s the movement to consider.


The best part of a thrusting dildo is that it feels like a simulation without needing a partner. However, there are several important things you should remember when riding a thrusting dildo. First, put the sex toy on a flat and stable surface to reduce risks and unwanted instances. Second, you should have the remote (if it has one) always at the ready if you want it to stop.

Realistic Dildo

Realistic dildos are a lifelike recreation of a real penis, down to the head, shaft, and veins. The only difference is the size- realistic dildos tend to be bigger than the average penis, but they’re still less than big dildos or dragon dildos.


Riding a realistic dildo is nearly the same as a regular dildo. Follow the steps above to ease into your new toy, and ride when you’re more confident. Also, don’t forget to lube up.

Remote Controlled Dildo with App

Remote-controlled sex toys like these dildos offer greater and more precise control at the palm of your hand. This makes them safer to use compared to non-remote dildos, although they still have the risks inherent in riding a dildo. The shape of the dildo will depend on the product, but most of the time they will have vibration or thrusting mechanisms that are easily accessible.

Safety Precautions When Riding a Dildo

Choose a Solid and Even Surface. A good rule of thumb when positioning a dildo for riding is that it shouldn’t fall over. Choose a flat and solid surface, e.g., the floor, a wall for suction, or a mirror before attempting to ride the sex toy.


Don’t Forget to Lube Up. This can’t be stressed enough. Lubricants make the experience ten times better than without. We recommend that you do not attempt penetration with a dildo without lubing up. The lube should be compatible with the adult toy material- a water-based lube should work well with silicon.


Make Sure to Have the Capability to Raise and Lower Yourself. Do some squats and check your physical capacity before attempting to ride a dildo. This won’t be as important if you’ve put the dildo on a wall for dog-style penetration. Assume a peeing position and see if you can hold it for a minute or so before going on a dildo ride.


Clean and Dry After Every Use. Good hygiene also serves as a health precaution when using a dildo or any other sex toy. Since dildos tend to go inside the vagina or anus, they should be cleaned thoroughly so they’re clean and ready for the next session. Wash your sex toy using gentle soap and warm water, then wipe it clean with a clean microfiber cloth.

How to Ride a Dildo FAQs

Can I Get Hurt When I Ride a Dildo?

Yes, a dildo can slip inside your vagina or anus, or cause unwanted tissue tears if you’re not careful. Be careful at all times when you ride a dildo, and make sure you’ve done some experimentation beforehand. Riding on soft or uneven surfaces can increase the risk as well.

What’s the Best Way to Ride a Dildo?

On a flat and stable surface, with the dildo pointed up or towards you for penetration. You can angle the sex toy slightly for preference, but it shouldn’t be too awkwardly placed or you won’t be able to ride the dildo until orgasm. Also, you should ride at your own pace and preferred position.

Can I Ride a Dildo With a Partner?

Yes, you certainly can. Get consent from your partner before you whip out the sex toy so you’ll be comfortable in the bedroom. In this scenario, you (the receiver) can have your holes plugged in with the dildo while your partner stimulates your other areas. In exchange, you can perform oral sex or have another sex toy to satisfy your partner.

How Big Should a Dildo Be?

Length and size matter in sex and penetration, so make sure to buy a dildo that you can be satisfied with. Honey Play Box offers a variety of high-quality dildos for riding, including a suction cup dildo, vibrating dildo, and fantasy dildo for those who are inclined to try something new. We recommend getting a bigger dildo than a smaller one.

What Kind of Dildo is Best for Riding?

Dildos with ‘riding’ features, such as a suction cup or thrusting mechanism are usually the best for this kind of play. Suction cup types allow you to place the toy nearly anywhere- in the bathroom, mirror, or lying on the floor. You will want a dildo that can work hands-free for the best riding experience.

Is Dildo Riding Better Than Holding It?

While there are merits of riding a dildo, sometimes manual stimulation works in some scenarios. The answer to this depends entirely on you. Some factors, like mood, fantasy, and how horny you are can dictate whether it’s better to ride a dildo than to hold it in your hand, and vice versa.

Is It True That a Dildo Can Go Inside?

There are some cases when all caution is thrown out the window and results in an unfortunate situation. As long as you follow our safety tips and precautions, you should be fine. Remember to be mindful at all times when playing with your sex toy in single or partner sessions.

Ride the Waves of Pleasure with a Dildo Today

Riding a dildo is one of the most unique experiences you can get. It’s like doing a cowgirl sex position, albeit with a sex toy. If you find it pleasurable then the dildo you bought will be well worth it.